Coexistence

For a healthy interaction with me, you must observe some rules.

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1. When questioning my behavior, give me some incentive and time to show the reason for it being appropriate to the situation. Otherwise, I will consider your questioning as merely a display of manipulative dissatisfaction, and I will choose to ignore it.
2. Whenever possible, negotiate the conditions of our interaction before proceeding. This includes: proposing a time, date, location, conversation protocol, etc. Adding a clause ‘these rules are valid for all the next interactions if resistance is not found’ to the agreement, this will not be a recurring task and will pay fruits of great value throughout our coexistence, in that it will prevent the emergence of obstacles.
3. When sending an email for the first time, it must be signed. It is not always possible to infer from the e-mail address of the sender who actually sent the e-mail.
4. People have individual space around their bodies. Respect this distance, especially in professional or academic encounters.
5. The most important thing that a human being can give to another is his time. Professional and academic meetings should follow clear schedules for beginning and ending. And such times must be respected.
6. If you offer some food or drink to someone you are meeting and this person refuses, do not insist.
7. When arguing with a person who is against your ideas, do not repeat arguments already presented.
8. Never use the arguments of authority (I am more qualified than you), of counter-authority (who are you to say that?), of tradition (it has always been so) or of revelation (I just know). It is not rational and therefore denounces unpreparedness to argue in a civilized way.
9. Many criticisms you hear often mirror the critic’s personal profile. The same goes for the personal criticisms you make. Avoid lengthy discussions that clearly demonstrate that neither party is willing to be flexible. Lack of flexibility in relation to an idea is not necessarily a bad feature. But insisting on discussions that do not evolve is time-consuming and a considerable waste of time.
10. When you introduce yourself to someone you do not know, say your first and last name. When you introduce one person to another, say the first and last name of the presented part. If it is the case, present the title of someone next to his or her name.
11. My name is just the address of the entity to which your message will be sent. I am willing to adopt a nickname if my name is in shock with the name of another entity (in a given context/namespace). My preferred nickname is “Yann”.
12. I can identify signs of flirtation, but I choose to ignore them almost always. If you have an offer to make, do it directly and ask for a confirmation of receipt of the message.
13. If we are in a shared bathroom, do not initiate communication with me.
14. Do not make bodily contact if you are infected by any contagious organism.
15. When forming an Indian queue, do your best not to obstruct the flow of people. Do not stay ahead of doors and concentration points, like drinking fountains. Fold the row if necessary, even if this prevents you from leaning against the wall.
16. When talking to me, focus on what I say, not on how I say it. Try not to assume something because of the way I expressed myself, if in doubt, ask me. E.g .: I was silent for some time after I heard you, do not assume, due to the silence, that my position on what you said is X or Y.
17. I do not participate in resource allocation systems based on gifts and/or probabilistic events. Do not invite me to participate in such systems.
18. If you want to give me a gift, ask me first if I accept it. I do not receive items that will not be useful to me.
19. If you find something mine lost out there, I may offer you a reward if you return it to me.
20. Nudity does not bother me.

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